Yes, it's probably improper (in the Emily Post fashion) to write about things as personal as trying to have a baby. That needs to change.
Infertility has been going on for a long time, way longer than Laura and I have even known each other. And it's one of those things that I think everyone knows someone who has dealt with, but it has to be left unspoken.
Oh, you can't (easily) have kids? That's a real shame. Let us never speak of this again. Boy, that football game last night was crazy!
I'm a firm believer in everyone having their "thing." I'm not going to go so far as to say that God gave us infertility problems to make other people aware of the issue, but I do think that two things are true: one, that we have a responsibility to de-stigmatize (at least as best we can) infertility, and two, to spread the word that the best way to deal with it, as we've learned, is to be completely open about it.
No, I don't think that we're going to have millions of people lined up to run a 5K for infertility awareness or drive around town with half-blue/half-pink ribbons stuck on the back of our cars. Hey, if someone wants to start the Susan G. Komen Foundation For The Cure Of Infertility, sign me up - but that's not where the change is going to come from.
It's going to come from stuff like this blog, from knowing people who go through it and who want others to know what's happening. Not for sympathy, or for selfish reasons, but simply to get the word out that this does happen, and it's high time that we get out of this 1950s mindset that there's something wrong with you when you don't fit the mold.
Well, yes, there is something wrong (thank you for noticing), but that's not the point.
So, yeah, this blog will probably have too much stuff in it than you feel comfortable knowing, but I'd rather put too much information out there than not enough. Not enough information leads to suffering in silence. Too much leads to support and understanding from others.
Give me the latter any day.
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